What Are You Doing?
Every year people talk about what they resolve to do the next year and how that will make things different. I think that is great. Self-assessments are necessary, and we don’t use them enough. When I was a kid if you wanted to put someone in his or her place, you would tell them, “you better check yourself before you wreck yourself” What a great saying. That was letting them know that whatever you think your issue is with me, it is really on your side of things, so start there.
My mantra has been to live with no regrets. I go with that every year. I make decisions hoping that they are the best ones for me and anyone else they might affect. I would love to say that I have always been excellent at this and I have lived a life with no regrets. LIES!
If I had to do it all again, there are some things that I would not do. Do I regret them? Not really because every experience makes me who I am. I would like to believe that I am a selfless person. I would like to believe that the things that I have decided to do have not had negative effects on others. I am not a fool, so I know that every account will be different. Each person might have another point of view regarding the situation. Change starts with me. I own that.
Starting today, I don’t need to wait for a new year to work on me; decisions will be in my own best interest. Why? Because when I take into account everyone else and how something will affect them when it is a decision for my life, I miss something vital. I see and understand that now. It took a long time for me to admit that I was doing this thing all wrong because I want to believe that I am making decisions based on what is best for everyone for something that only has to do with me. I am linked to them, but really how my decisions affect them is based off what they have going on in their own lives. I realize I’m riding the merry-go-round. The term, “I’m doing me” is going to take on a whole new meaning today. I hope that you do you and that it is the best you that you can do!
The Writer
