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Have you ever heard the term, “You can’t win for losing”? I hear people say that all of the time. In a lot of ways that term is correct. I think more importantly though we have to be willing to lose it all in order to win. If you are not willing to lose it all to get to where you want to be then you shouldn’t be going.

When was the last time that you really gave something 110%? When was the last time you told yourself that you were going to do well at something no matter what it took or how long it took? When was the last time that you really, really wanted to succeed at something?

No matter what the answers are to those questions, the important thing is that there should be something that you would be willing to risk it all to succeed at. It is so easy to get caught up in deadlines and in doing things for other people and forgetting about yourself. Don’t forget about yourself.

A very good friend of mine made up a word for me. We call it “mefish”. I was talking about not wanting to be selfish, but wanting to do somethings that would change my family dynamics and my availability. I really wanted to do the things that I was talking about, but it would mean a huge change. My friend told me that I had no business feeling guilty because I had aspirations outside of what I have been doing the last twenty-five years. I was told that I needed to be “mefish”. I liked that word, so now when I take time out to do something for me, I don’t feel guilty. I don’t feel bad. I do it and I feel like a million bucks. I am happier and actually I am better suited to help my family because I am not disappointed about not doing what I wanted to do.

We have to take time for ourselves. I made a promise to me that I would be “mefish” sometimes. It is ok. It is a good thing. “I cannot win anything until I am willing to lose everything.” –Kennedy Schultz. Lay it all on the line and be the best at whatever it is you are striving for.

Stay Positive.

The Writer

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